Why we thrive when we’re not alone
The shorter days and colder nights of winter tend to keep us indoors. We settle into routines that can feel comforting for some and isolating for others. And during the holidays—when it seems every commercial, gathering, and social media feed is all about togetherness—feeling disconnected can feel even lonelier.
The good news? Even small moments of connection can make a meaningful difference for your health. You don’t need a fancy holiday party or a large circle of friends. Having a few genuine connections with people you trust can improve your emotional well-being and physical health.
Connection isn’t about doing more. It’s about feeling understood, supported, and part of something—no matter the season.
Why connection matters for your health
Decades of research tell us that people who feel connected tend to do better, physically and emotionally. These benefits show up throughout the body.
Meaningful connection can help:
- Lower stress hormones — chronic connection helps reduce cortisol levels, which can otherwise disrupt sleep, raise blood pressure, and affect mood.
- Improve heart health — supportive relationships are linked to lower inflammation and healthier blood pressure, both of which are key to cardiovascular wellness.
- Strengthen the immune system — meaningful social ties help buffer the body against the damaging effects of long-term stress.
- Support better sleep and mood — connection boosts feel-good chemicals like serotonin and oxytocin, which promote steadier mood and more restorative rest.
- Increase longevity — strong social connection is associated with living longer, rivaling many lifestyle factors we often think of as core to good health.
Simply put, connection acts like a protective factor—something your body and mind rely on.
What connection really looks like
When people think about “connection,” they often picture big celebrations or a perfectly hosted gathering. But in reality, connection usually happens in everyday, ordinary ways.
It can look like:
- A short, meaningful conversation
- A text that says “Thinking of you.”
- A walk with a friend or neighbor
- A shared routine or hobby
- Checking in on someone you haven’t spoken to in a while
- A simple moment of eye contact or a genuine smile
Your body doesn’t measure the size of the moment—only the sense of being seen or supported.
A note about technology
Today, many of us stay in touch through texts, social media, and video calls. While virtual connection can be meaningful, it doesn’t always replace the emotional and physical benefits of in-person interaction. Even small face-to-face moments—like sharing a walk or a conversation—can deepen connection in ways screens sometimes can’t.
How to strengthen the relationships you already have
Deepening connection doesn’t have to mean big changes. Small, intentional actions can make relationships feel stronger and more meaningful.
- Offer genuine appreciation — specific, heartfelt compliments strengthen trust and remind people they matter.
- Build simple rituals together — small routines like a weekly walk or monthly coffee date create consistent opportunities for connection.
- Use micro-connections throughout the day — eye contact, real questions, and sincere compliments add warmth and presence to everyday interactions.
- Reach out when someone crosses your mind — following that natural nudge often leads to meaningful conversations and renewed closeness.
It is these little touchpoints that build closeness over time.
Ways to build new or more meaningful connections
If you’d like to feel more connected or meet new people, start with approachable steps.
- Say yes more often — Accepting even one invitation you might normally decline can open the door to new conversations, shared experiences, and unexpected friendships.
- Join something that happens regularly — A recurring class, book club, support group, volunteer shift, or fitness meetup gives you a built-in routine, familiar faces, and the comfort of growing connection over time.
- Explore faith-based or spiritual communities — For many people, participating in a church, synagogue, or mosque has long been a meaningful way to build connection and can provide an important sense of belonging and support, especially during difficult or transitional times.
- Share a little more about yourself — Opening up about how your day is really going helps others feel safe doing the same, which deepens trust and emotional closeness.
- Ask for help—or offer it — Reaching out creates natural moments of support and reciprocity, strengthening relationships in a way that feels authentic and human.
Connection grows from repetition, authenticity and vulnerability, not from grand gestures.
The “double benefit” of reaching out to someone who may be lonely
One of the most meaningful ways to feel more connected is to reach out to someone who might be feeling isolated. When you do, you’re offering comfort, inclusion, and care—and at the same time strengthening your own sense of belonging. It’s a true “double benefit,” with both people walking away feeling a little more seen.
Simple gestures can make a big impact:
- Invite someone to join you for a walk or a cup of coffee
- Check in on a neighbor who lives alone
- Send a handwritten note or a thoughtful message
- Ask, “How are you doing—really?”
- Include someone new in your plans
Connection expands when we share it, and often, the smallest outreach can brighten two days at once.
A hopeful reminder for the season
You don’t need a perfect conversation or a big gathering to feel connected. Even a few sincere interactions—however brief—can boost your mood, ease stress, and support your overall well-being.
As winter settles in, choose the kinds of connections that feel natural to you. A small gesture, a kind word, or a simple check-in can help you feel more grounded while reminding someone else they’re not alone.
When we strengthen our ties with others, we strengthen ourselves, too.
Additional Resources
- The importance of connections: Ways to live a longer, healthier life, Harvard School of Public Health
- Social connection linked to improved health and reduced risk of early death, World Health Organization
- The Secret Trick to Improve Your Social Connections, TED Talk, Kasley Killam